Different parents will react differently when faced with the same request from their child.

And most parents will answer their children, "Then play for a while."

Indeed, the different responses given by different parents when confronted with a child's request to play with a cell phone could potentially determine the child's future.

Cell phones are a double-edged sword, and how to teach children to use them wisely is our eternal question.

Most adults can't resist the lure of cell phones, let alone children! In terms of health alone, children's brains absorb 60% more electromagnetic waves from cell phones than adults when they use them. Other hazards will be detailed in this article. In the meantime, Xiao Lei has prepared countermeasures to share with parents!

Not long ago, an American psychologist published the shocking results of his decade-long research.

This scientist took 100 children from lower-middle-class families across the country 10 years ago and divided them into two groups: 50 children who had no access to cell phones and 50 children who were obsessed with cell phones. They were then followed up.

After 10 years, the findings are as follows:

Only two of the 50 cell phone-obsessed kids went on to college. Almost all of the other 50 kids who don't play with cell phones went on to college, and only three chose to help out at home after high school. Sixteen of these college-bound kids received full scholarships to their schools.

Clermont-Ferrand University, France A test showed that children's brains absorb 60 percent more electromagnetic waves from cell phones than adults when they use them.

Recently, the British Daily Mail even wrote an article pointing out that children's use of cell phones can cause memory loss, sleep disorders and other health problems. Dr. Gerard Kaidu of the University of Warwick in the United Kingdom warned that cell phone radiation can disrupt the normal functioning of a child's nervous system, which can cause a series of problems such as memory loss, headaches and poor sleep.

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How are cell phones ruining kids?

★Smartphones affect children's health

News of smartphones harming children's eyesight and causing blindness or harming children's cervical vertebrae and causing deformation of the cervical vertebrae are common, and these injuries are tangible and can be seen by the eyes. In addition, children who are addicted to smartphones often show negative attitudes towards sports and exercise, leading to low athletic ability, which in turn affects their growth and development.

★ Cell phones make kids depressed

Some experts say that the more time spent on cell phones and the more they like to stay at home, the higher the chances of depression, and that children who play with cell phones a lot have a much higher rate of depression than the average child.

★Cell phones damage brain nerves

A child's physiological structure and physiological form are different from that of an adult, and the electromagnetic wave radiation produced by radio devices such as cell phones and tablet computers can cause far more damage to a child's nervous system than that of an adult, and overexposure to electromagnetic wave radiation can have a certain impact on a child's health and cognitive power.

★Cell phones delay children's learning

Children who like to play with cell phones, used to the easy and pleasant information brought by the phone, the knowledge of learning to feel the drums of tedium, learning performance decline, be blamed more need to find solace in the cell phone network, the formation of a vicious circle, the child gradually lose the desire to learn, produce an aversion to learning.

Addicted to the world of cell phones all day long, spend less time and energy on learning, over time, academic performance is bound to decline.

★Prone to sleep disorders

As you probably know, frequent smartphone use by children can cause vision loss. But what's worse is that it can cause sleep problems.

A health organization in California, the United States, made a survey, cell phone light than the daily light on the impact of children's sleep, put ten children into two rooms, a house of children watching TV after going to bed, with 28 minutes to fall asleep; and another room to play smart phones after the children, generally fall asleep after 39 minutes. Of course we do not recommend that children watch TV before going to bed oh.

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Look at what an initiative France has put in place.

The use of cell phones by primary and secondary school students in schools is prohibited!

The new bill states that students are not allowed to use cell phones throughout the campus and classrooms;

According to statistics, the penetration rate of cell phones among students aged 12-17 has reached 90%;

The banning of cell phones for primary and secondary school students is one of the key initiatives Macron has put forward since coming to power;

Use ban, but hope that parents pay attention! How to guide children to use cell phones wisely and prevent them from becoming overly addicted to them?

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Different interventions should be used for children of different ages

➤ 1-3 years: try to keep children away from cell phones

Young children's retinas don't develop until they are 12 years old, and until then they should minimize their exposure to cell phones and other electronic devices.

The more children are exposed to electronics (cell phone games/TV) at ages 2 and 3, the more likely they are to develop attention disorders (e.g., ADHD) at ages 7 and 8.

Recommendation:

• Parents try not to play with their cell phones in front of their children, interact more with their children, take the initiative to update their children's toys, etc.
• Parents refuse to download any games on their cell phones in case their children ask to play on their phones due to game addiction.
• If your child is curious about cell phones, demonstrate to your child how to make calls, send voice messages, take pictures, etc., to establish a correct perception of what cell phones are used for.

➤ 3-6 years old: try to keep children away from mobile games

Many parents in order to figure a moment of purity, will occasionally throw the child to the mobile game "care". But 3-6-year-old children are still small, lack of self-control, once exposed to the game, very easy to get addicted.

Therefore, children in this age group can have appropriate access to cell phones, such as letting them understand that cell phones can be used for basic purposes such as making phone calls, chatting with people, and videos, but they must stay away from cell phone games.

Recommendation:

• Parents and family members of cell phones to entertainment, that is, to delete games, music, video and other types of APP will attract children. even if the child wants to play the phone, in addition to flipping through the photo albums, taking pictures, will not find it interesting, naturally, will not be pestering their parents for a cell phone to play.
• Actively cultivate your child's reading habit and read more children's picture books with your child. (The color and storytelling of picture books are also more attractive to children. As long as children love to read, they basically won't think about playing with their phones.)
• Enrich your child's life experiences, take your child out to experience nature more often, and encourage your child to make more friends.

Ages 7-12: No strong-arming for cell phone issues

At this age, children enter the second stage of psychological rebellion, known as child rebellion.

Children in the rebellious period, with a strong sense of self and independence, will become stubborn and short-tempered, sometimes reasoning, dislike parents are speechless.

In the face of their children's addiction to cell phones, many parents often use the following methods: first, to use parental status to force pressure (I said no play is not allowed to play / play again, you will have no food / play again, I will beat you up); secondly, to use the threat of parent-child relationship (if you play again, you don't want to play / if you play again, I don't like you anymore).

These two methods do more harm than good. In the long run, they will not only seriously damage the parent-child relationship, but also aggravate the child's dependence and addiction to cell phones.

Recommendation:

• Negotiate with your child on the length and frequency of cell phone play as a rule that must be followed, and if violated, you can take on chores as a means of chastisement.
• Parents need to be aware of their own emotions and motivations, and the goal is for "the child to stop playing the game", not "the child to stop playing the game". Allow your child to talk back, cry, and other grievances.
• Parents should try to understand their children's feelings and positions. For example, if parents want their children to finish their homework before playing on the cell phone, instead of saying "Go do your homework right now," they should say "I know this game is fun, but you have to finish your homework first. I'll watch you finish the game and then you can go do your homework, okay?"

12-18 years old: appropriate intervention to guide children to use cell phones wisely

Children in this age group are in the prelude to adolescence, with a higher level of thought and cognition, and have also acquired a certain degree of self-control and self-management ability. Parents should insist on appropriate intervention and reasonable utilization. Direct confiscation or angry yelling, or even a violent beating, are all treating the symptoms but not the root cause.

Cell phones are like a double-edged sword, they can hurt your child, but they can also help, it's all about how you use them.

Recommendation:

• Pay more attention to your children's psychological and behavioral changes and give them some personal space. Many teenagers are addicted to cell phones because they are curious about sex, parents can try to ask and politely educate. For example, through WeChat, button or e-mail, teach your child some basic knowledge of sex.
• Once there is communication and trust, negotiate with your child to set rules for playing on the cell phone, such as whether or not you can bring it to school to play, when you can play on the cell phone, how long you can play for at a time, and what the punishment will be if you go over the time limit.
• Correctly view the use of cell phones by children, and guide them to make reasonable use of the positive effects of cell phones, such as reading e-books on cell phones is more convenient, and searching for learning information on cell phones.

Maybe after reading so much, actually doing it, many parents still have a headache, how to find a balance between parents' personal presence with their children, and letting them use electronic devices?

Let's look at three experiences shared by a parent that Mr. Littleley thought was very good!

4 Three points of experience

①Specify the amount of time your child can use electronic devices

Previously, a parent asked what to do when his child has been playing with his cell phone for a long time and cries out when he is not allowed to play.

This is actually a good problem to solve. Firstly, you can set a time limit for your child to use electronics, and secondly, you can remind him in advance of how much time is left, so that he can keep his words.

We usually do not let the bear watch TV, but will let him play a little IPAD, each time can only play 10 minutes, no more than twice a day, every time there are still two or three minutes left, I will remind him, tell him how long, so that he has a mental preparation.

Electronics are very appealing to children, and 10 minutes can go by in a flash, so reminding your child ahead of time so he has time to prepare for the end is easier for him or her to accept.

Of course, the length of the use of electronic products do not have to stipulate so dead, there are programs a little longer, twenty or thirty minutes, see also no harm, but the total length of the day is best not more than 1 hour.

As long as you keep this rule, the child will gradually get used to it, which is also good for the development of self-control, after all, children have little self-control, or parents need to help their children to comply with the rules through in life.

②Learning through electronics

When your child is using electronics, you can teach your child about the benefits of electronics and allow them to learn new things through them.

For example, the map function of the phone, once, the evening rush hour, I have to take the bear to rush to the farther place to listen to the recital, so I told the bear to use Baidu map to check the way to travel.

We both traveled by subway, and on the way, at each stop, I showed Bear our real-time location on the map, and then followed the navigation forward after leaving the subway, which instantly allowed the child to connect the information in the electronic product with real life.

In addition to the map navigation function, you can also let your child learn to take photos, videos, weather forecasts, WeChat voice messages and other practical functions that are closely related to life.

Further, parents can help their children pick out educational programs, such as Animal World, which they can watch with their children and explain to them by asking them from time to time what animal this is and what that is.

Read some relevant picture books and take your child to the zoo during normal times, then all the information your child receives from different sources is combined.

③ Find activities that can replace electronics

Some moms say that their kids are bored and don't know what to do without TV or cell phones.

That's why it' s very important for your child to develop some hobbies and arrange rich recreational activities in addition to the use of electronic devices.

For example, learning to draw, learning to play chess and so on, every day need to practice, but also can develop the child's concentration and patience; or take the child to climb the mountain, swimming, so that the child's whole body and mind exercise; there are also parent-child reading, parent-child games, all of these are able to help the child's comprehensive development of useful activities.

How's it going? It feels pretty good, doesn't it! Parents just need to think about it more and their kids will get more out of it!

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Parental companionship opens up the child to greater horizons

Long Yingtai said, "Play is the root of learning in heaven and earth."

The best parents are the ones who are the best at bringing their children to play.

Taking children for walks, traveling, and exploring books, children will observe insect dwellings, birdsong, and grass dew in nature, perceive the beauty of mountains, sea, clouds, and fog, and expand their eyes and minds in books.

Children who grow up being irrigated by nature, infused with humanities, and nurtured by the fragrance of books have interests beyond the sky and a big world in their hearts, so how can they be addicted to cell phones and other electronic products?

Write at the end:

It is said that education spells out the financial strength of the parents and the aura of the child, rather than the cohesion between the parents and the child.

Good parents care for their children with their hearts, listen to them, and guide them, rather than throwing them a cell phone.

A small cell phone often hides the philosophy of being a parent and the future of your child.

May parents share in this!